Have you found the key to happiness?

So, Andreas shared a link on my wall. It is an article about "give to get". It was a good one and very insightful too. But he deleted it before I even get to comment. I have no idea why. haha

and this very article reminds me to one of my job interview session. You know how during interviews we tend to give answers that the interviewers want to listen instead of the real thing or how during interviews we make our sentences pleasing to the ears. But with this one interviewer who were extremely friendly, I gave him an honest answer, without thinking much and I think it is the best answer for the commonly asked question for the interviews I have been to. The most true. at least,true to myself.

"Why do you want to teach?"

I said, " a good teacher is never forgotten and I want to be those teachers whom their students never forget even until they become somebody big in their lives. The teachers whom the students refer as the BEST teacher ever. The teachers that actually change their life even in the smallest way possible."

and after saying that, I can feel myself smiling. 

You know, for me teaching is not just about making students get an 'A' in the paper. It is part of the job, but teacher is more than that. A good teacher teaches, educates, influences, supports, listens, helps and the list can go on and on.....bottom line is, its totally beyond just giving knowledge. 

teaching is synonymous to giving. And that is why I want to teach.I want to give. Unconditionally.

Sometimes, human focus more on receiving more than giving. Its common. Its normal. It doesn't make you the bad guy. No.

Its just that, when you expect more, you tend to give less.

"what will I get in return?"

"how does that benefit me?"
"do I have anything to do with that person?"
"why should I? I don't even know her?"
"I have my own problems, he has his. So, be it!"

expecting something in return when you give, makes you less happy. 

Simple example, when we are in a relationship... often we expect our partner to love us more than we love them or they do something more for us than what we did for them or maybe something almost similar to what we did. And when it doesn't, what happened to us? We become sad? We doubt their love? We get upset? 

Anyhow, none of those is a good feeling. All is negativity which eventually become the factor to the failure of the relationship. Or if the relationship stands, we remain unhappy on the inside.

Obviously I am just talking from an outsider perspective because I am not in any relationship at the moment, but you can change the situation. Doesn't matter. My main point is expecting more makes you less happy. Giving more makes you happy.Simple equation.

You see, when you just give unconditionally, life will give you more. It is not necessarily from the person you gave to. It can be anybody, it can be anything. The least, it will give inner joy. What is better than inner joy? I personally think that is everything I need to go on with life.

My old friend tell me, one thing he learnt in this few years is, "sometimes we see people that have everything to make them happy. but they might be less happy than people who seems to have nothing to be happy with."  Am I making any sense?

Being happy is not about how much you receive. It does not even matter how much wealth you have. It is something that is uncountable. No quantity can measure happiness.

a smile from little kid across the street, that can make us happy.

a thanks from an old lady we helped on our way back from work, is enough to let us forget the hectic day we had.
a hug from a dear friend may let us feel secure after being rejected by our crush.
a simple hello can make us smile all day long.

giving is that simple. Doesn't have to be a rare uncut diamond from the most secluded mountain in the world. Doesn't have to be the most expensive limited edition chocolate bar from Paris. It can be as simple as just being there. 

Give and you will get.

as what I said to Andreas, 

"The bottom line is, just be good, and kind and nice and pleasant person to be with."

that is key to happiness. Its not hard at all.Right?


I couldn't think of any better closure than Andreas' words,
"God never close His eyes..."


touch someone's life with kindness. its free but priceless

random rambling on changes.

Realizing the fact that not everything will remain as it is in my life, I always wonder how weird human system works. I am not talking about the digestive system nor muscular system because obviously I can learn those in Science. I am talking about something more abstract which no scientist can solve and no one even the most genius man on the earth can give the definite answer.

I wonder how human feelings can be so complicated and confusing. 
I wonder how human thinking can be changed easily; with reasons or none.

When I was living in Johor, I hate "asam pedas" dish so much so that even when I saw it, I smirked.
But I don't know somehow this is now my favourite dish and I can eat it everyday.I mean it, EVERY DAY!

I used to hate outdoor activities like jungle trekking and being uncomfortable in nature environment, sweating and all.
But now I am yearning for another nature adventures or any sort of adventures. I don't mind. Just something new for me to try. I just realized I missed a lot of things and I wish I can do more.

I never like to walk or use public transportation unless I really had to, because it is time consuming and tiring. I always thought it is better to reach a place in the most fast and comfortable mean, so I drive a lot. Easy. Fast.
Somehow it came to me that, sometimes it is not the destination that matters but the things you experienced along the way and whom you travel with makes a journey meaningful.

I don't usually care about things that are not related to me. But little did I realize that at some point of my life, that things will mean something to me.
In example, in the past, ASEAN is just what I studied in the classroom. Vietnam is just another country. Indonesia, we have many Indonesians here in Malaysia. Thailand is where tomyam came from. Brunei is a country with rich people. And I even thought that Cambodia and Laos are the same because I often heard Laos and Cambodia in a same sentence.

However now, those countries are not just another countries for me. I have friends there and I really wanted to go to each of those countries.

I always thought that I want something, but now I become aware that many of those things do not matter to me anymore. And some things that I really hate in the past, I actually love it now. And the places I never intended to go, only God knows how I want to be there at this very moment.

And the things that I like, the people that I think I love. The feelings fade. It just go away. Maybe I had enough of those hopes and uncertainties.
I don't know.

Things change.
My feelings change.
My dreams change.
My life changes, a lot!

I really miss these awesome people!!!

Good Bye 2013, Welcome 2014