I am lost for words...everything happens very quickly..something that I have been praying for, since forever is now coming true (almost)...
sometimes I am scared..what if this is just for a while...what if this will not work...many ifs and buts come to my mind...thousands of questions unanswered, mainly due to the fact that they were never been asked...
Our story is different..people will not understand..sometimes, it does not make sense to myself, too..however, I am coping..believing that things will change when the right time comes...
Waiting is never an easy task...I have been waiting for so long..long enough to make this waiting seems like nothing...at times, I do wish time moves faster...I do not want to wait anymore..I could not wait any longer...at times, this wait seems beautiful...knowing that, at the other end I will get something worthwhile...worth all the sleepless night, all the uncertainties, all the daydreams, all the hopes and prayers..
Being realistic, I know the future will not be perfect..it will be full with ups and downs...it will be full with more uncertainties and surprises...it will be full with tears and smiles, laughters and anger, doubts and worries, joy and thousands other emotions...it will be beautifully flawed...
Sometimes, I do wish we are like other people out there...things will be simpler...less overthinking, less insecurities, less worries, less anxiety....
BUT, I dont think I want that...I dont think I want simple..I dont think my story is like other people's...it is way more than other people's...special in its own way..specially writen for me, to be cherished for all my life...our lives..OURS...
May we look back on these days, and smile...as we realised that we have crafted the best story of US...
May Allah ease everything...
#randomrants
Those hands......
as we were sitting at the counter, i saw something that i have never seen before been able to see clearly before.
those hands.
now.
they look old.
they are all veiny and dry.
they are not as what i have remembered.
they are not as young as i thought.
not anymore.
Ya Allah...
those are the hands that unconditionally picked me up when i fell.
those are the hands that without failed touched every inch of my life,
up until now.
without those hands surely i am not who i am today.
those hands,
shape me,
and it still does.
those hands hold millions puzzle pieces of me.
all my flaws,
my mistakes,
my weaknesses,
everything that made me,
ME.
Ya Rabb....
youth has fade from those hands....
strength has slowly left....
all these years,
everything has taken its toll.....
i couldn't count how many times those hands wake me up from mistakes,
i couldn't count how many times those hands lead me out of trouble,
i couldn't count how many times those hands show me the right way,
i couldn't tell how many times those hands were raised to make du'a for me...
Ya Raheem..
not in a million years,
could i repay all her kindness to me,
not in a million years,
could i wipe all the tears she shed for me,
not in a million years,
could i heal all her heart ache,
not in a million years,
could i return her youth that she spent to raise me,
not in a million years
As i grow older,
the more i realised,
that,
she has always been there,
no matter how distance i was,
she has always been there,
no matter how i behaved.
Ya Rahman...
i don't have words to describe,
how i am grateful,
to be blessed with
those hands of my mother's.
Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyum,
bless her with good health,
place her in the highest level of your Jannah,
as she doesn't deserve any lesser.
grant her what she deserves Ya Allah...
as i have no power,
only from you,
i ask for
all her sacrifices,
all her hardships,
all her selflessness,
all her sleepless nights,
all her tears,
all her sufferings,
all her worries,
to be rewarded with the best of rewards.
mak,
ina mungkin tak kan mampu nak balas semua yang mak dah buat untuk ina....
ina tak pandai nak luahkan,
ina tak pandai nak tunjuk,
tapi...
ina sayang mak....
ina cuba bahagiakan mak semampu ina,
tapi ina tahu sebaik-baik yang memberi balasan adalah balasan dari Allah....
mak,
moga Allah berikan mak tempat yang terbaik di sana nanti....
moga kita akan bersama-sama, dengan abah, adik2, wan dan semua sekali akan ditemukan dan disatukan dekat syurga yang abadi.....
amiiin...
ps: i wish i could hold her hands now. i wish i could kiss her hands now. i just wish she is here with me, now.... =(
Have you found the key to happiness?
So, Andreas shared a link on my wall. It is an article about "give to get". It was a good one and very insightful too. But he deleted it before I even get to comment. I have no idea why. haha
and this very article reminds me to one of my job interview session. You know how during interviews we tend to give answers that the interviewers want to listen instead of the real thing or how during interviews we make our sentences pleasing to the ears. But with this one interviewer who were extremely friendly, I gave him an honest answer, without thinking much and I think it is the best answer for the commonly asked question for the interviews I have been to. The most true. at least,true to myself.
"Why do you want to teach?"
I said, " a good teacher is never forgotten and I want to be those teachers whom their students never forget even until they become somebody big in their lives. The teachers whom the students refer as the BEST teacher ever. The teachers that actually change their life even in the smallest way possible."
and after saying that, I can feel myself smiling.
You know, for me teaching is not just about making students get an 'A' in the paper. It is part of the job, but teacher is more than that. A good teacher teaches, educates, influences, supports, listens, helps and the list can go on and on.....bottom line is, its totally beyond just giving knowledge.
teaching is synonymous to giving. And that is why I want to teach.I want to give. Unconditionally.
Sometimes, human focus more on receiving more than giving. Its common. Its normal. It doesn't make you the bad guy. No.
Its just that, when you expect more, you tend to give less.
"what will I get in return?"
"how does that benefit me?"
"do I have anything to do with that person?"
"why should I? I don't even know her?"
"I have my own problems, he has his. So, be it!"
expecting something in return when you give, makes you less happy.
Simple example, when we are in a relationship... often we expect our partner to love us more than we love them or they do something more for us than what we did for them or maybe something almost similar to what we did. And when it doesn't, what happened to us? We become sad? We doubt their love? We get upset?
Anyhow, none of those is a good feeling. All is negativity which eventually become the factor to the failure of the relationship. Or if the relationship stands, we remain unhappy on the inside.
Obviously I am just talking from an outsider perspective because I am not in any relationship at the moment, but you can change the situation. Doesn't matter. My main point is expecting more makes you less happy. Giving more makes you happy.Simple equation.
You see, when you just give unconditionally, life will give you more. It is not necessarily from the person you gave to. It can be anybody, it can be anything. The least, it will give inner joy. What is better than inner joy? I personally think that is everything I need to go on with life.
My old friend tell me, one thing he learnt in this few years is, "sometimes we see people that have everything to make them happy. but they might be less happy than people who seems to have nothing to be happy with." Am I making any sense?
Being happy is not about how much you receive. It does not even matter how much wealth you have. It is something that is uncountable. No quantity can measure happiness.
a smile from little kid across the street, that can make us happy.
a thanks from an old lady we helped on our way back from work, is enough to let us forget the hectic day we had.
a hug from a dear friend may let us feel secure after being rejected by our crush.
a simple hello can make us smile all day long.
giving is that simple. Doesn't have to be a rare uncut diamond from the most secluded mountain in the world. Doesn't have to be the most expensive limited edition chocolate bar from Paris. It can be as simple as just being there.
Give and you will get.
as what I said to Andreas,
"The bottom line is, just be good, and kind and nice and pleasant person to be with."
that is key to happiness. Its not hard at all.Right?
And,
I couldn't think of any better closure than Andreas' words,
"God never close His eyes..."
deep.
and this very article reminds me to one of my job interview session. You know how during interviews we tend to give answers that the interviewers want to listen instead of the real thing or how during interviews we make our sentences pleasing to the ears. But with this one interviewer who were extremely friendly, I gave him an honest answer, without thinking much and I think it is the best answer for the commonly asked question for the interviews I have been to. The most true. at least,true to myself.
"Why do you want to teach?"
I said, " a good teacher is never forgotten and I want to be those teachers whom their students never forget even until they become somebody big in their lives. The teachers whom the students refer as the BEST teacher ever. The teachers that actually change their life even in the smallest way possible."
and after saying that, I can feel myself smiling.
You know, for me teaching is not just about making students get an 'A' in the paper. It is part of the job, but teacher is more than that. A good teacher teaches, educates, influences, supports, listens, helps and the list can go on and on.....bottom line is, its totally beyond just giving knowledge.
teaching is synonymous to giving. And that is why I want to teach.I want to give. Unconditionally.
Sometimes, human focus more on receiving more than giving. Its common. Its normal. It doesn't make you the bad guy. No.
Its just that, when you expect more, you tend to give less.
"what will I get in return?"
"how does that benefit me?"
"do I have anything to do with that person?"
"why should I? I don't even know her?"
"I have my own problems, he has his. So, be it!"
expecting something in return when you give, makes you less happy.
Simple example, when we are in a relationship... often we expect our partner to love us more than we love them or they do something more for us than what we did for them or maybe something almost similar to what we did. And when it doesn't, what happened to us? We become sad? We doubt their love? We get upset?
Anyhow, none of those is a good feeling. All is negativity which eventually become the factor to the failure of the relationship. Or if the relationship stands, we remain unhappy on the inside.
Obviously I am just talking from an outsider perspective because I am not in any relationship at the moment, but you can change the situation. Doesn't matter. My main point is expecting more makes you less happy. Giving more makes you happy.Simple equation.
You see, when you just give unconditionally, life will give you more. It is not necessarily from the person you gave to. It can be anybody, it can be anything. The least, it will give inner joy. What is better than inner joy? I personally think that is everything I need to go on with life.
My old friend tell me, one thing he learnt in this few years is, "sometimes we see people that have everything to make them happy. but they might be less happy than people who seems to have nothing to be happy with." Am I making any sense?
Being happy is not about how much you receive. It does not even matter how much wealth you have. It is something that is uncountable. No quantity can measure happiness.
a smile from little kid across the street, that can make us happy.
a thanks from an old lady we helped on our way back from work, is enough to let us forget the hectic day we had.
a hug from a dear friend may let us feel secure after being rejected by our crush.
a simple hello can make us smile all day long.
giving is that simple. Doesn't have to be a rare uncut diamond from the most secluded mountain in the world. Doesn't have to be the most expensive limited edition chocolate bar from Paris. It can be as simple as just being there.
Give and you will get.
as what I said to Andreas,
"The bottom line is, just be good, and kind and nice and pleasant person to be with."
that is key to happiness. Its not hard at all.Right?
And,
I couldn't think of any better closure than Andreas' words,
"God never close His eyes..."
deep.
touch someone's life with kindness. its free but priceless
random rambling on changes.
Realizing the fact that not everything will remain as it is in my life, I always wonder how weird human system works. I am not talking about the digestive system nor muscular system because obviously I can learn those in Science. I am talking about something more abstract which no scientist can solve and no one even the most genius man on the earth can give the definite answer.
I wonder how human feelings can be so complicated and confusing.
I wonder how human thinking can be changed easily; with reasons or none.
When I was living in Johor, I hate "asam pedas" dish so much so that even when I saw it, I smirked.
But I don't know somehow this is now my favourite dish and I can eat it everyday.I mean it, EVERY DAY!
I used to hate outdoor activities like jungle trekking and being uncomfortable in nature environment, sweating and all.
But now I am yearning for another nature adventures or any sort of adventures. I don't mind. Just something new for me to try. I just realized I missed a lot of things and I wish I can do more.
I never like to walk or use public transportation unless I really had to, because it is time consuming and tiring. I always thought it is better to reach a place in the most fast and comfortable mean, so I drive a lot. Easy. Fast.
Somehow it came to me that, sometimes it is not the destination that matters but the things you experienced along the way and whom you travel with makes a journey meaningful.
I don't usually care about things that are not related to me. But little did I realize that at some point of my life, that things will mean something to me.
In example, in the past, ASEAN is just what I studied in the classroom. Vietnam is just another country. Indonesia, we have many Indonesians here in Malaysia. Thailand is where tomyam came from. Brunei is a country with rich people. And I even thought that Cambodia and Laos are the same because I often heard Laos and Cambodia in a same sentence.
However now, those countries are not just another countries for me. I have friends there and I really wanted to go to each of those countries.
I always thought that I want something, but now I become aware that many of those things do not matter to me anymore. And some things that I really hate in the past, I actually love it now. And the places I never intended to go, only God knows how I want to be there at this very moment.
And the things that I like, the people that I think I love. The feelings fade. It just go away. Maybe I had enough of those hopes and uncertainties.
I don't know.
Things change.
My feelings change.
My dreams change.
My life changes, a lot!
I wonder how human feelings can be so complicated and confusing.
I wonder how human thinking can be changed easily; with reasons or none.
When I was living in Johor, I hate "asam pedas" dish so much so that even when I saw it, I smirked.
But I don't know somehow this is now my favourite dish and I can eat it everyday.I mean it, EVERY DAY!
I used to hate outdoor activities like jungle trekking and being uncomfortable in nature environment, sweating and all.
But now I am yearning for another nature adventures or any sort of adventures. I don't mind. Just something new for me to try. I just realized I missed a lot of things and I wish I can do more.
I never like to walk or use public transportation unless I really had to, because it is time consuming and tiring. I always thought it is better to reach a place in the most fast and comfortable mean, so I drive a lot. Easy. Fast.
Somehow it came to me that, sometimes it is not the destination that matters but the things you experienced along the way and whom you travel with makes a journey meaningful.
I don't usually care about things that are not related to me. But little did I realize that at some point of my life, that things will mean something to me.
In example, in the past, ASEAN is just what I studied in the classroom. Vietnam is just another country. Indonesia, we have many Indonesians here in Malaysia. Thailand is where tomyam came from. Brunei is a country with rich people. And I even thought that Cambodia and Laos are the same because I often heard Laos and Cambodia in a same sentence.
However now, those countries are not just another countries for me. I have friends there and I really wanted to go to each of those countries.
I always thought that I want something, but now I become aware that many of those things do not matter to me anymore. And some things that I really hate in the past, I actually love it now. And the places I never intended to go, only God knows how I want to be there at this very moment.
And the things that I like, the people that I think I love. The feelings fade. It just go away. Maybe I had enough of those hopes and uncertainties.
I don't know.
Things change.
My feelings change.
My dreams change.
My life changes, a lot!
And,
I really miss these awesome people!!!
Good Bye 2013, Welcome 2014
Teaching Practice day 1 -- Connecting the hearts~
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim....
reaching out to the real world
190213 | SMKTPD
Harini kelas yang pertama untuk practicum...
Alhamdulilah dapat kelas yang paaaaaling atas dan kelas yang paling bawah....
Untuk harini masuk yang kelas paaaaaaling atas tu...
Tak tahu nak ajar apa sbb macam blur lagi...
Jadinya ajar WH-questions...
Budak-budak pandai kan, diorang dah tahu dah semua tu..
Jadi sebagai activity, mereka disuruh seorang demi seorang untuk tanya sesiapa sahaja apa-apa soalan tapi kena guna WH-question tags.....
Memang macam2 ragam soalan dan jawapan...
Pasal artis la, twilight la, kpop la,greyson chance,one direction..err..apa lg lupa..
Dari sini dapat tahu minat diorang...
Di samping belajar, ni salah satu cara untuk ice breaking supaya mereka terasa selesa dengan ticher baru..
macam2 soalan for me too, sampaikan sewa rumah berapa pun ditanya...hehe
Soalan yang terharu rasa is ada sorang student ni tanya kawan dia, "Why do you choose me as your best friend..."
oh so sweet..
Lelaki oke dua2...huhu
and the answer given by the student was, " because we are together since primary school."
he stopped and they smiled at each other...
both of them are very bright students, both are in the top classroom and i am sure they help each other a lot....
I truly believe that your friends shape who you are and who will you be...=)
suddenly i miss my best friend since form 1...SHAMILAH...=(
Dah selesai activity tu, tanya pendapat diorang pasal poem yang dah belajar, I Wonder....
Poem ni pasal alam sekitar,
Jawapan seorang student ni nama dia Ravinna, dia kata dia suka sebab poem ni pasal nature yang yang orang selalu tak ambil berat...
From her response, sy pun dapat idea utk cerita sikit pasal nature...
Im so glad that i went to PPKA UKM-MNS dan SEE Nature...
Berkongsi serba sedikit pengalaman dan ilmu...
Dan cuba korek-korek on how aware they are to their surroundings..
Ada tanya, "how safe your environment are?"...
Tanya jugak "how long do you think the environment can survive and still be a safe place to live in?"
Tanya pasal kawasan PD ni dan kelebihan magrove..
Pasal carbon sinks...pasal migratory birds...
Dan tanya mereka "What do you do for the nature?"
Ada yang aware dan ada yg clueless..
Cerita pasal turtle makan plastics,dugong, otters....
Mereka sgt interested...
Dan sempat promote Raptor Watch yang akan diadakan nanti dkt Tanjung Tuan..
Ada jugak among them went to the raptor watch last year....
They cooperated very well...
Tomorrow will be going to the other class..
Let see how it goes...
May Allah ease...
Ps: satu perkara yang sy suka bila ajar English, good values can be instilled anytime and anywhere...
Pss: insya-Allah i think i should share as much experience during my teaching practice here as i could..
Psss: excuse me for my bahasa rojak
ah, and I would like to share one of my thoughts after what i've gone through today...it is kind of like a poem....
I don't want to be a teacher
I want to be a teacher that inspire students,
I want to be a teacher that courage students,
I want to be a teacher that help students,
I don't want to just teach,
I want to educate....
It hurts to force myself to just focus on the syllabus..
I think the students need more than just textbooks...
The advice, "Dont give face to the students,"
Sadly, i could not follow..
The innocent faces asking for attention are just too priceless,
They are so see through eventhough some are naughty,
But that is just it,
They(students) actually listen if we(teachers) talk the right way,
I know,
because then i WAS them...
Just teach--
i can't...
Educate--
Is my aim...
I want to be a teacher that courage students,
I want to be a teacher that help students,
I don't want to just teach,
I want to educate....
It hurts to force myself to just focus on the syllabus..
I think the students need more than just textbooks...
The advice, "Dont give face to the students,"
Sadly, i could not follow..
The innocent faces asking for attention are just too priceless,
They are so see through eventhough some are naughty,
But that is just it,
They(students) actually listen if we(teachers) talk the right way,
I know,
because then i WAS them...
Just teach--
i can't...
Educate--
Is my aim...
I don't want to be a teacher
I want to be more
Insya-Allah...
Insya-Allah...
Sometimes we just forgot to listen...
Kawan ke tak niee??? >.<"
"menyampah
la duduk kat kalangan orang2 yg taksolat ni....bukannya takboleh
solat..tapi taknak solat...lelaki perempuan sama je..."
luah seorang sahabat ketika menceritakan perihal rakan sekelasnya yg sering mengabaikan solat....waktu solat dibiarkan berlalu tanpa ada yg mahu mengajak bersolat...tambahnya lagi...dia suka berada dalam sahabiah2 yg mementingkan dan sentiasa ingat waktu solat.....sekurang2nya walau sesibuk mana pun..kewajipan no 1 tu takkan terabai....
termenung sekejap....hmm..ada benarnya ape yg diperkatakan...selain daripada keluarga...golongan yg paling hampir dengan kita adalah sahabat2.....mereka akan banyak mencorakkan gaya hidup kita....lagi2 bile da meningkat dewasa..tinggal di hostel..tiada mak abah yg dapat memantau tindak tanduk kita..mereka takkan tahu ape yg kita lakukan..da solat ke belum ke..da makan ke belum ke....
cuma harus kita igt...kadangkala kita takdapat mengawal kehadiran orang dalam hidup kite....taksemua org yg hadir dalam hidup kita adalah seperti yg kita mahukan...akan ada sahabat2 kite yg mempunyai sikap atau perangai yg tidak kita sukai..meskipun seteruk mana pun perangai sahabat tu.....mereka telah ditakdirkan hadir dalam hidup kita...
analogi kegemaran saya...hidup setiap manusia berada dalam satu garisan..bengkok atau lurus...tergantung pada caturan Allah....ade ketikanya...garis2 kehidupan manusia bersilang dan bertemu dalam satu titik...ketika titik pertemuan ini,terjadinya perkenalan antara kita dan insan tersebut....sambungan garisan selepas itu..mungkin seiring mungkin juga terpisah....jika seiring perjalanan garis itu..kita dan dia akan terus bersahabat walau terpisah seribu batu..namun jika titik mula itu juga adalah titik akhir,kita akan terus terpisah dengannya....tapi takmustahil akan ada 1 ketika garisan kita dan dia bertemu sekali lagi...itu semua ada dalam perancangan Allah yg takmungkin kita dapat teka...
namun....akan ada hadir sahabat2 yg masih terleka dengan dunia....gembira melakukan maksiat..seronok berhibur dan melanggar syariat...ini adalah satu cubaan dan ujian buat kita...hati2..jaga iman.....dengan sahabat2 sebegini..kita harus bijak menyesuaikan diri....jangan terus membencinya....benar dia melakukan dosa...tetapi...hati manusia adalah dalam kawalan Allah..takmustahil suatu hari dia akan sedar akan segala silapnya dan kembali kepada fitrah..janganlah membenci orang yg melakukan dosa...belum tentu matinya dalam dosa...namun.bencilah akan dosa dan kemungkaran yg dilakukannya...semoga dia segera tersedar dan kemnali ke jalan redha Allah...ameeen.....
Allah mengaturkan hidup manusia dengan sebab...mungkin ada sebab kenapa kita ditakdirkan bersahabat dengan seseorang..mungkin jika kita mampu kita boleh berusaha mengubahnya...atau paling sedikit yg dapat kita lakukan adalah dengan mendoakan agar dia segera tersedar dari segala dosa yg dilakukan....
persahabatan itu adalah satu anugerah dari Allah..Islam amat2 suka akan ukwah dalam umatnya....indahnya Islam kerana persaudaraan....haram hukumnya memutuskan silaturrahim...tak masuk syurga nanti..nauzubillah.....jika ada antara sahabat anda yg tidak anda sukai..jangalah bermusuh dengannya..jangan bencikan dia...apa yg boleh kita buat..cuba ajak dia meninggalkan segala kemungkaran..jangan pula dah Islam kata jangan putus silaturrahim kita menyokong segala kemaksiatan yg dia lakukan....ajak dia sama2 melakukan kebaikan...sentiasa doakan agar dia tersedar....insya-Allah doa yg baik serta tulus dari hati..Allah makbulkan..andai suatu hari nanti sahabat anda yg dulunya sesat dan leka..tapi dengan kuasa Allah dia berubah...sy yakin anda akan jadi manusia yg paling gembira melihat perubahan tersebut.....
muhasabahlah diri kita sendiri...sahabat jenis apa kita ni..sahabat yg mengajak ke syurga?atau mengheret ke neraka?jika kita inginkan sahabat yg baik2....yg soleh/solehah...kita harus bertindak..yang baik itu tidak jatuh dari langit..kita haruslah berusaha..bentuklah diri jadi sahabat yang baik...tanamkan sifat2 yg baik dalam diri....insya-Allah orang2 yg baik akan hadir dalam hidup kita...usah harapkan soleh/solehah hadir mengetuk pintu menghulur persahabatan andai jalan sesat yg kita pilih....
sekian....
ps: sesungguhnya segala yg buruk datangnya dari sy...dan yg baik2 itu adalah dari Allah....maafkan andai ada tersalah kata atau tersinggung rasa...
pss: harapnya bermanfaat...
psss: jom jadi sahabat syurga...^_^
Cari jodoh...1..2..3....
gambar kasik mood sikit....hehehe
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...
Alhamdulillah wa syukurillah diberi kesempatan masa untuk akhirnya update blog yang dah lama terbiar ni....sungguh terasa masa mencemburui....insya-Allah kesempatan yang ada ni akan dimanfaatkan sepenuhnya...
Sejak beberapa bulan kebelakangan ni kerap jugak aktifkan diri untuk join sebagai volunteer event-event anjuran dari IluvIslam dan OneHeart Creative solution...bermula dari penyertaan untuk Konvensyen Fiqh di PWTC, tergerak hari untuk join volunteering untuk Konvensyen Bidadari Dunia...kemudian apply untuk event "A Moment to Remember bersama Oki Setiana Dewi dan Wardina"..seterusnya "Seminar Al-Fateh" yang mana Ust Hasrizal adalah salah seorang panelis yang mengemukan poin yang sangat bernas! Event seterusnya anjuran OneHeart adalah event bersama Professor Tariq Ramadhan, tetapi ketika event ni saya tak dapat sertai sebagai urusetia atas sebab masalah kesihatan...dan alhamdulillah minggu lepas, berpeluang menjadi volunteer/urusetia untuk "Seminar Baitul Muslim", juga anjuran OneHeart di Menara TM...
Kebanyakan slot tak dapat saya sertai atas faktor kepenatan dan kemengantukan..hehehe...hajat hati nak dengar slot pertama yang dikendalikan oleh Ustaz Pahrol, tapi pagi tu agak sibuk di kaunter pendaftaran...tapi Alhamdulillah slot kedua yang menjadi target iaitu slot Ustaz Zaharuddin dapat saya dengari secara penuh.....hehe...."Cari Jodoh, Langkah 1..2..3.."...tajuk yang buat saya tersenyum sendiri....hampir seminggu bertangguh-tangguh untuk berkongsi poin-poin dari UZAR berkenaan tajuk "Cari Jodoh, langkah 1..2..3.."...tapi hari ni ayuh saya kongsikan sedikit poin yang dapat saya catit....moga Allah bantu melancarkan tulisan ini..kalau ada kesilapan harap betulkan...apa yang saya tulis tidaklah 100% seperti yang UZAR perkatakan, tapi isinya ada insya-Allah bersama sedikit huraian dan respon dari saya.....bismillah...
Kata UZAR~~~
~ jodoh itu salah satu bentuk rezeki dan seperti rezeki yang lain, ia boleh diperolehi melalui jalan halal atau jalan haram...yang berbeza ialah 'rasa' barakahnya....
teringat satu ceramah yang didengari di Radio Rodja(live streaming kat internet)....rezeki kita ni Allah dah tetapkan dari awal...kalau Allah dah tulis dalam buku rezeki kita pada hari ini kita memperoleh RM100, kita akan dapat juga...cuma terpulang pada kita sama ada nak bekerja secara halal untuk dapat RM100 tu..alhamdulillah...kita akan dapat RM100 bersama keberkatan.....tetapi kalau kita memilih untuk mencuri dan merompak untuk RM100 tu, kita tetap akan memperoleh RM 100 tu tetapi berkatnya tiada bahkan berisiko ditangkap polis dan dikenakan hukuman undang2....
jadi, rezeki jodoh pun begitu juga...mahu dapatkan pasangan kita itu secara halal dan berkat iaitu selepas nikah...atau mahu berhubungan haram sebelum akhirnya berkahwin?berkat kurang...manis pun kurang....jadinya....BERCINTALAH SELEPAS NIKAH...^_^
~rumahtangga high class,high iman..asasnya adalah dari cara mencari jodoh...
cinta high class ni selalu dibincangkan oleh Ustazah Fatimah Syarha...sejujurnya belum pernah dengar talk beliau secara penuh..dengar begitu2 je....tapi logiknya memang begitu kan....siapa tak mahu berkelas tinggi...siapa yang suka digelar low class...siapa yang tak mahukan barang yang berkualiti tinggi.....kan? kan? kan?....tapi kenapa dalam soal bernikah kahwin, seolah2 kita tak kisah pun dapat yang low class....high class bukan maknanya hantaran sampai RM50 000, kenduri 7 hari 7 malam, kenduri dihadiri VVIP dan lain-lain penilaian material...tapi high class kat sini maksudnya ekslusif, special dan yang paling penting diredhai oleh Allah..pengiktirafan siapa yang paling kita perlukan tak lain tak bukan penilaian di mata Allah? biar manusia mengeji asalkan Allah redha......dan cinta high class ni asasnya adalah dari cara mencari jodoh..cara low class atau cara high class? jom kita teruskan pembacaan...akan ada nanti tips untuk mencari jodoh cara high class..insya-Allah...
~soal jodoh ni adalah urusan ghaib....tidak diketahui bila hadirnya...cepat atau lambat, hanya Allah yang tahu...tapi yang paling utama, persiapan diri....
JENG..JENG...JENG.....tajuk best ni....jodoh ni kena usaha...betul..tapi usaha macam mana? kena cari ke..kena tunggu ke?....ish..selalu runsing bila fikir pasal ni..nak cari malu..nak tunggu takut melepas...aha....*cakap kat diri sendiri*
antara yang boleh dilakukan adalah,
* Berdoa - dengan cara berulang-ulang....
Allah itu Maha Mendengar rintihan dan rayuan hamba-Nya......perlulah kita telusuri kisah dan hayati cara bagaimana sifat doa para Nabi dan para solihin..betapa doa mereka bukan sekadar meminta..mereka seolah-olah bercakap dengan Allah.....dengan segala ketulusan hati...yang mana mereka hanya berserah sebulat-bulat pengharapan kepada Allah....
[copied and pasted] Disebutkan di dalam permulaan surat Maryam: Ingatlah rahmat Allah swt kepada nabi Zakaria as, tatkala ia berdoa kepada Tuhannya dengan suara perlahan dan mengatakan:
رَبِّ إِنِّي وَهَنَ العَظْمُ مِنِّي
وَاشْتَعَلَ الرَّأْسُ شَيْباً وَلَمْ أَكُنْ بِدُعائِكَ رَبِّ شَقِيّاً * وَإِنِّي
خِفْتُ المَوالِيَ مِنْ وَرائِي وَكانَتِ امْرَأَتِي عاقِراً فَهَبْ لِي مِنْ
لَدُنْكَ وَلِيّاً * يَرِثُنِي وَيَرِثُ مِنْ آلِ يَعْقُوبَ وَاجْعَلْهُ رَبِّ
رَضِيّاً
“Ya Tuhanku, sesungguhnya tulangku telah lemah dan kepalaku telah ditumbuhi uban, dan aku belum pernah kecewa dalam berdoa kepada Engkau, ya Tuhanku. Dan sesungguhnya aku khawatir terhadap mawaliku sepeninggalku, sedang istriku adalah seorang yang mandul, maka anugerahilah aku dari sisi Engkau seorang putra, yang akan mewarisi aku dan mewarisi sebahagian keluarga Ya’qub; dan jadikanlah ia, ya Tuhanku, seorang yang diridai”.[2]
Terdengar seruan dari sisi Tuhan: “Hai Zakaria, sesungguhnya Kami memberi kabar gembira kepadamu akan (beroleh) seorang anak yang namanya Yahya, yang sebelumnya Kami belum pernah menciptakan orang yang serupa dengan namanya”.
Nabi Zakaria as menjawab: “Ya Tuhanku, bagaimana akan ada anak bagiku, padahal istriku adalah seorang yang mandul?”
Dijawab: “Demikianlah, hal itu adalah mudah bagi-Ku; dan sesungguhnya telah Aku ciptakan kamu sebelum itu, padahal kamu (di waktu itu) belum ada sama sekali”.
Allah swt menganugerahkan nabi Yahya kepada nabi Zakaria dengan membawa kitab dan hikmah.
Allahu Allah..kisah Nabi Zakaria ini ada disebut dalam ceramah Sheikh Sulaiman Moola[KLIK] ni...dengar dan muhasabah...ada juga tips yang boleh diamalkan untuk memudahkan jodoh..insya-Allah....
* optimis,buang persepsi negatif
Lihatlah firmanNya di dalam hadith qudsi:
Sabda Rasulullah SAW bahawa Allah SWT telah berfirman: “Aku adalah seperti sangkaan hambaKu terhadap Aku. Dan Aku bersamanya tatkala Dia mengingatiKu. Sekiranya dia mengingatiKu dalam dirinya, maka Aku akan mengingatinya dalam diriKu. Sekiranya dia mengingatiKu di khalayak ramai, maka Aku akan mengingatinya di depan khalayak ramai yang lebih mulia(para malaikat dan nabi-nabi). Jika hambaKu mendekatiKu sejengkal, Aku akan mendekatinya sehasta. Jika hambaKu mendekatiKu sehasta, Aku akan mendekatinya sedepa. Jika hambaKu mendekatiKu dalam keadaan berjalan, Aku akan mendekatiNya dalam keadaan berlari(cepat).” Hadith Qudsi Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim. Hadith nombor 59 dalam Kitab Al-Wafi karangan Imam An-Nawawi.
definitely ini adalah langkah yang baik....bersangka baik pada Allah...buang segala persepsi negatif seperti, "Aku tak cantik, tu takde siapa nak kawin dengan aku.."..."aku tak layak...." dan lain-lain....sesungguhnya Allah tahu apa yang terbaik untuk kita..kenapa kita seolah-olah meragui ketetapan jodoh dari Allah......optimislah....Allah ada sediakan jodoh untuk kita..mungkin dekat, mungkin jauh....sabar saja dong....yang penting siapkan diri! orang negatif akan keluarkan aura negatif dan menarik aura negatif juga...jadi positiflah.....mana tahu itu bakal menarik jodoh kita supaya semakin hampir?
* mencari jalan atau cara,jalan dan kaedah berkenalan yang diharuskan syara'
Islam tidak melarang kita berusaha mencari jodoh..asalkan cara itu tidak melanggar batasan syarak..masih ada limit, masih ada guidelines yang kena diikut.....UZAR ada menyebut beberapa cara seperti nazhar, ta'aruf
1) Nazhar ataupun melihat calon isteri.....aurat wanita adalah seluruh tubuh kecuali muka dan tapak tangan, demikian itu tiadalah salahnya jika seorang syabab melihat terlebih dahulu wajah seorang muslimah sebelum melamarnya untuk menjadi isteri.....
2) Ta'aruf ataupun berkenalan....perkenalan ini boleh boleh berlaku antara syabab dan muslimah itu (ikhtilat dan batas dijaga dan sekadar perlu sahaja)....ataupun melalui orang tengah yang diyakini kewibawaannya...
*Istisyarah
istisyarah atau networking juga boleh menjadi salah satu daripada jalan untuk jodoh kita....apa itu istisyarah? secara ringkas UZAR menyebut istisyarah ini sebagai networking......caranya ialah dengan meluaskan jaringan ukhuwah dan hubungan dengan ramai orang..senang kata berkawan dengan semua orang...boleh jadi melalui kawan kita tu, adik dia ke, kakak dia ke, kawan dia ke adalah jodoh kita.........kan? dan mereka boleh jadi tempat untuk kita berbincang soal jodoh kita ni.....=)
*istikharah [KLIK] [KLIK]
yang ni dah banyak dibincangkan....soal jodoh itu perlu istikharah....minta pertolongan dan petunjuk dari Allah...sama ada pilihan kita itu terbaik atau tidak untuk kita...siapa lagi yang ada jawapannya kecuali Allah yang telah menetapkan untuk kita yang terbaik untuk kita....
dan istikharah itu tak semestinya melalui mimpi, ia boleh jadi melalui gerak hati..dan adakalanya gerak hati pihak yang satu lagi tu...banyak tanda-tanda istikharah yang dapat kita perhatikan...bagaimana tindak tanduk calon yang kita hendak pilih, terbukanya hati ibu bapa kita untuk memberi restu dan lain-lain lagi....yang paling penting, tidak boleh ada kecenderungan...baik untuk dia tak semestinya terbaik untuk kam...baik untuk kamu, tak semestinya terbaik untuk dia...
*tawakal, redha dan berserah
ini tak perlu explain kot...moh dengar lagu Permata Yang Dicari....hehee....
Ya Allah..jika dia benar untukku,
dekatkanlah hatinya dengan hatiku,
jika dia bukan milikku,
tabahkanlah hatiku dengan ketentuan-Mu...
T_T *lagu ni sedeh*
~~~~~~~berehat sebentar~~~~~~~~
UZAR kata lagi, tips untuk jodoh.......
~ kita boleh dapatkan bantuan ibu bapa, saudara mara atau siapa sahaja yang kita yakini wibawanya untuk mencarikan kita jodoh yang soleh dan solehah....arranged marriage tidaklah membawa keburukan asalkan adanya keizinan dari kedua belah pihak...insya-Allah.....
~ antara yang lain adalah dengan menyertai kumpulan dakwah yg ada khidmat baitul muslim....
~ menyertai aktiviti kebajikan dan seminar atau program keagamaan serta aktif dalam kerja2 kemasyarakatan...dalam soal ini, di samping dapat berbakti, dapat juga peluang bertemu jodoh sebagai manfaat sampingan.....jangan pulak join program sebab nak dapat jodoh....lepas kahwin terus je pasif dan tak beraktiviti lagi....NO NO NO...sepatutnya pernikahan sebagai motivasi untuk terus bergerak aktif....
~Melalui laman sosial, blog dan forum islamik.....
cara ni pun adalah cara yang baik asalkan ada batasnya....ingat, di alam maya pun ada syaitan.....mudah saja terpesong niat tu......
~menawarkan diri kepada lelaki yang soleh
yang ni..perigi cari timba...tak salah bahkan rumah tangga Rasulullah dengan Siti Khadijah, Siti Khadijah lah yang pertama memulakan langkah.....tapi melalui cara yang terhormat dan tidak menjatuhkan maruah sebagai seorang muslimah......^_^
seriously kagum dengan keberanian muslimah yang berani memulakan langkah......saya tak berani...
*banyakkan istighfar dan bertaubat supaya doa tidak terhijab...insya-Allah..
*tambah amalan...
dan seperti yang dinyatakan sebelum ni, jodoh itu adalah rezeki....oleh itu,eloklah kita memperbanyakkan amalan yang boleh memebuka pintu rezeki seperti menyambung silaturrahim, banyakkan bersedekah dan lain-lain....
OH ya, teringat ada satu episod Semanis Kurma, Ustazah Norbahyah jugak ada memberikan beberapa tips untuk jodoh..
1) USAHA
2) UBAH PEMIKIRAN
3) AMALAN MERINGANKAN JODOH
a) solat taubat dan istighfar
b) solat hajat
c) puasa hajat(paling bagus masa birthday)
d) doa ibu bapa
e) doa alim ulama
f) doa diri sendiri
dan antara doa yang boleh diamalkan
1) surah yusuf ayat 4
2) surah yunus ayat 81 - elak sihir
3) surah al-qasas ayat 24 - hajat sungguh-sungguh
1..2..3..langkah praktikal
1) paling penting untuk kita kenal diri sendiri
+ ilmu - setakat mana ilmu yang kita ada...cukup tak untuk memegang tanggungjawab sebagai isteri/suami
+ pendidikan - di tahap mana pendidikan kita?
+Sikap dan sifat diri - kelemahan dan kekurangan diri
+Kewangan - mampu?tidak?mahu usaha?atau malas?
~ sebelum nak mencintai orang, terlebih dahulu kita perlu cintai diri kita...sebelum nak kenal orang, penting untuk kita kenal diri sendiri dahulu....=)
2) fahami pasangan bagaimana yang diidamkan...
+Perkahwinan batu loncatan mendapatkan redha Allah....pasangan sebagai alat....jangan mengharapkan kesempurnaan...
+ jangan terbuai dek khayalan nak dapat yang sempurna
*suka iklan ni pasal perfection pada pasangan [KLIK]
3) apabila dah kenali diri dan ciri pasangan yang dikehendaki.....tanya pada diri, di mana individu begini wujud? Pergilah ke situ.....kalau nak lelaki yang dekat dengan masjid, joinlah kariah masjid dan aktiviti masjid berdekatan....kalau mahukan lelaki soleh yang berpendidikan, carilah di universiti...itu sekadar contoh.....bukan suruh jual muka atau apa, tapi buka jalan untuk mereka nampak kita...dan buka jalan untuk diri kita mencari calon yang sesuai...
next....
+ terdapat akses untuk ta'aruf? Jika tiada? boleh guna orang tengah....dengan cara ini, dapat memelihara maruah terutamanya muslimah yang mahu memulakan langkah mendekati calon suami pilihan... tapi, pastikan orang tengah itu diyakini akhlaknya
+ berjaya ta'aruf??
+ ketika bertunang, itulah tempoh untuk meneliti sikap bakal pasangan..baik kah..buruk kah...sesuai dengan kita atau tidak.....
Satu peringatan, dalam sebuah hadis yang diriwayatkan oleh Bukhari dan Muslim, Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam bersabda;
“Wanita itu dinikahi kerana empat perkara: kerana hartanya; kerana keturunannya; kerana kecantikannya; kerana agamanya. Pilihlah olehmu wanita yang beragama nescaya kamu berbahagia”. [HR Bukhari dan Muslim]
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*Proses kenal ciri...
1) Cara berpakaian....dalam soal menutup aurat,PERLU judge book by its cover...sebab seseorang akan pakai apa yang diyakininya.....Allah suruh muslimah menutup aurat..garis panduannya jelas....kalau tak ikut jugak,apa maksudnya? Pandai2 lah nilai ye...
2) Risikan tambahan melalui sumber amanah...boleh selidik melalui teman rapatnya untuk mengetahui sikapnya yang mungkin kita tak dapat lihat.....pemarah, perengus, suka merungut ke dan lain-lain....salah satu cara mengetahui kelebihan dan kekurangannya....
3) Penting juga risik sama ada dia sudah berpunya?
-jika belum, telitilah sifatnya sebelum meminang..antara kriteria yang boleh diteliti terutamanya melalui laman sosial seperti FB dan blog serta lain-lain medium yang mudah di akses oleh public...
*Perkataan - bahasa yang digunakan..sopan?kasar?
*Baca tulisan - bermanfaat atau sia-sia?...ada unsur dakwah atau sekadar urusan hal dunia?melalui tulisan, kita boleh mendapat gambaran tahap pemikirannya, bagaimana dia berfikir dan tahap kematangan dirinya..
*cara bergambar(jika ada gambar di facebook dll) - gedik?mimik muka mengada-ngada?ada tak gambar mendedahkan aurat? ikhtilat dijaga atau tidak...dan lain-lain ciri boleh diperhatikan...
*Tempat kunjungannya dan ulasannya - di laman sosial, biasanya seseorang akan update tentang tempat yang dia suka pergi atau tak suka pergi....perhatikan tempat yang sering dia kunjungi..jika kebanyakannya ada tempat hiburan seperti hard rock cafe....masihkan layak dijadikan isteri/suami?
*Komentarnya di facebook? - ikhtilat di FB terjaga atau tidak? boleh nilai caranya berfikir..dan menggambarkan bagaimana layanannya terhadap orang lain...
*Gaya pakaian,beg,kenderaannya - kematangan boleh dinilai juga melalui appearance..
*Adab bergurau bersama rakan- bahasa kasar? unsur lucah?
*Respon terhadap pujian lain jantina - *copy dari status UZAR jep lah*
"Bila seseorang wanita post gambarnya di Facebook, kemudian ada orang comment, "Cantiknya awak.""Waah.. Comelnya", "isyh keibuannya wajah", "Ayunya" atau apa2 yang seertinya dengannya, khususnya dari lelaki bukan mahram atau juga wanita lain. Kemudian, apakah respond si wanita? Bagaimanakah response yang terbaik sebagai tanda dia seorang calon isteri solehah?.
Biasanya ramai wanita yang menjawab
"Thanks",
"Terima kasih" atau "Alhamdulillah" atau "eh tak ada lah, biasa2 aja"
(kononnya tawadhu') dan sebagainya. Adakah itu satu petanda akan sifat
yang baik?
Menurut pendapat saya, perempuan yang baik, sangat
elok untuk dijadikan calon isteri, ialah apabila muncul komen sebegitu,
dia akan DELETE gambar tersebut daripada Facebooknya, tanpa sebarang
komen lagi. (Antara point ini yang saya kongsikan sewaktu ceramah
LANGKAH 1,2 3 MENCARI JODOH di Seminar Baitul Muslim pada 6 Okt 2012
yang lalu)
Namun yang lebih baik tentunya, tiada dipaparkan gambarnya yang cantik tersebut."
UZAR juga ada menyebut tentang beberapa hal yang perlu di ambil perhatian....
+Lepas kenal(tunang),komunikasi dengan limitasi....paling baik dengan kehadiran parents atau mahram
+ gelenyar waktu berkenalan,membawa gelenyar lepas kahwin
+ dating utk berkenalan..NO NO NO
+ boleh menguji namun niat perlu benar-benar ikhlas dan menutup keaiban.
+Haram bergurau senda kerana itu adalah lorong syahwat(ketika berdua-duaan...telefon)
+awas fitnah masyarakat
+Fitnah dalam diri dan pasangan
+Awas bertukar gambar
+Awas hebahan umum sebelum di ijab kabul
+Jika tak jadi....anggap ujian...
+jika tiada jodoh...sangka baik pada Allah....kalau jodoh tak kemana...terus usaha....
*Tanda jodoh
UZAR kata, tiada tanda fizikal untuk menentukan orang itu jodoh kita atau tidak...jika pun jodoh kita berwajah seiras dengan kita, itu adalah ketentuan dari Allah....tetapi melalui pengalaman dan pemerhatiannya ada beberapa perkara boleh terjadi tika kita bertemu jodoh kita antaranya bila bertemu rasa berdebar-debar.....dan rasa malu tu lebih sikit dari bila berjumpa orang lain...*blush2*..jodoh ni tak semestinya melalui jalan mudah, adakala Allah sengaja me'rumit'kan jalan.....dan tanda yang paling tepat, istikharahlah....insya-Allah petunjuk terbaik adalah dari Dia....
Sebelum mengakhiri slot beliau, UZAR menekankan bahawa beragamanya seseorang itu boleh diperhatikan melalui tindak tanduknya seharian..adakah percakapannya berakhlak islam? beragamanya dia boleh di reflect melalui cara kerjanya....bekerja pantas..dan tidak membuang masa.....dan akhir sekali BERAGAMA TIDAK HANYA PADA ILMU AGAMA YANG ADA PADANYA, TETAPI SEJAUH MANA PENGAMALAN ILMU ITU...
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ehem ehem...insya-Allah ni je yang ada dalam catitan saya...moga lah bermanfaat...teringat pulak komentar seorang panelis dalam forum juga di Seminar Baitul Muslim ni...beliau kata, "Kalau dah rasa nak kahwin tu, kahwin je lah...."hehe..kelaka, tapi ada benarnya..dilambatkan bila dah ada rasa, banyak musibah boleh terjadi kalau tak betul caranya....tp pastikan dan ready yerr...insya-Allah..meh baca sikit pasal marriage....[KLIK]
wallahualam.....sekian...=)
JOM DENGAR MUFTI MENK CAKAP PASAL PERKAHWINAN[KLIK]
FIRMAN-NYA: Dan diantara tanda - tandaNya bahawa ia menciptakan untuk kamu (wahai kaum lelaki), isteri - isteri dari jenis kamu sendiri, supaya kamu bersenang hati dan hidup mesa dengannya dan denganNya diantara kamu (suami isteri) perasaan kasih sayang dan balas kasihan, sesungguhnya yang demikian itu mengandungi keterangan - keterangan (yang menimbulkan kesedaran) bagi orang - orang yang berfikir. (Ar-Ruum:21)
ps: Barakallahulakum buat sahabat-sahabat yang telah bernikah dan bakal bernikah....^_^
tangkapan di Seminat Baitul Muslim..moga ada masa menghabiskan..
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